Why women say NO to men

annoying reasons behind a woman's NO

There is no being in the entire world who is as
devious as a woman. And I would know.
Give me an ear men. Have you ever come across this
lady and you just felt compelled to have her grace
your life? Because you knew if you got to know each
other, noodles will start tasting like spaghetti just
because she brings so much richness to your life?
Well, women encounter such men too..and land them
in a matter of hours. But for you men, before you can
even spend sometime in the friend zone, you are met
with a cold, hard, frozen NO.

Why do some women do that ish, though? Check out
some of the reasons off the top of my head ( take out
your pencils students because I am about to educate
you):
1. String you along
If she knows you’re pretty stuck on her, she will keep
saying no just to string you along in the eventual case
she does say yes. In the meantime, you will be
relegated to her clubbing buddy,her movie buddy, her
shoulder to lean on etc.
This kind of no will be soft and accompanied by lots
of reasons of why she is not ready for a relationship
or to get intimate. It will never be harsh to shock you,
but sweet to keep you believing you still got a shot.

2. More time to study you
The only truth a man will ever tell a woman is his
name. And even that is debatable. It might be his
nickname or his fourth Christian name after his
fourth grandfather twice removed.
So a woman will tell you no, but still flirt with you as
she studies you. The real you. Do not be lulled into a
false sense of comfort thinking she has no clue about
you.
She’s probably already snooped on you on social
media, checked out your relatives as well and seen
how the company you work for performs on a
quarterly basis in case you are to be her future ex-
husband.

3. Self-preservation
Saying yes at first question is the cheapest of all cheap
moves. So she will try her best to prolong everything
to appear classy, a pseudo-virgin and most of all,
principled.
After all, if Steve Harvey can advise women to wait
three months before getting down with a guy, who is
she to break the universal rule?
4. Manipulation
Saying NO gives her the opportunity to make sure the
guy goes above and beyond the call of duty to
recognize how worthy she is.
She will look forward to being flaunted to his friends,
become a testimony of decent girls who just don’t give
in and how she was “worth the wait”.

5. Play toy
Well, how else is she going to occupy her time? You
will not be friend zoned but will be a plan b in case
the guy she’s really after fails to notice her.

6. Pleasure
Girls love games. It makes her crazy with happiness
when a guy would move traffic and political
demonstrations just to please her.
She looks forward kubembelezwa with gifts, with road
trips etc. And who doesn’t like seeing a man squirm in
his shoes with all that pretense of being macho?
It has to be the highlight of a dating period, right?

7. Because she can
She knows she’s wanted. And for that she will want
further validation. Saying NO will be the measure of
seeing how the opposite sex perceives her. If she is
worth the time or he was just in it for a hit and run.
Plus, it’s her only safe word. That’s if she does not
have a black belt in karate.

Ways to notice he is cheating on you

How to Find out if Your Boyfriend Is
Cheating on You (for Girls)
Whether you're starting a new relationship, or in the
middle of a serious relationship, there's always a
chance that your boyfriend could be cheating on you.
If you have reasons to suspect he's cheating, or if
you're just wondering if you're over thinking it, follow
these easy steps to find out whether or not your man
is being faithful.
Method One of Four:
Notice his Appearance
See if his looks have changed. Your man's
appearance can say a lot about whether or not
he's cheating. If he didn't care much about his
appearance before, but now spends more time
grooming than you do, then something is up. He
may be improving or changing his looks to please
his side piece. Here are some signs that he's
grooming for someone else:
If he used to be scruffy before, but he's always
shaving.
If he gets routine haircuts now, but let his
hair grow shaggy before.
If his clothes have improved significantly.
If you catch him starting in the mirror to study
his looks.
If he always looks nice, even when he's
supposed to be studying or working overtime.
A big red flag is if he smells different. Whether
his body chemistry has changed slightly from
being with another woman, or if he outright
smells like perfume, this is a big sign that
he's been spending time with someone else.
If there are stray hairs on his body and clothes
that do not belong to you.
Pay attention to how he treats his body. If
your man suddenly cares a lot more about his
body than he did before, then he may not be doing
it just for you. Unless he's suddenly determined to
run a marathon, it's more likely that he's improving
his body for another lady. Here are some signs:
If he's suddenly working out all the time and
cares a great deal about his appearance.
Remember that going to the gym could also
just be another excuse for seeing his lady.
If he's dramatically changed his diet to be
healthier. He could be doing this to impress
someone else.
If he's weirdly shy with his body around you
and doesn't want you to see him with his
shirt off, and only wants to have sex in the
dark. This could mean that he feels he's being
disloyal to his other woman.
Pay attention to his body language. Your
man's body language can go a long way in
telling you how he feels about you, and if he's
really thinking about someone else instead of you.
Here are a few signs that he may be cheating on
you:
If he doesn't make eye contact when you talk.
If he used to be Mr. Eye Contact, but now he
always looks away or at the floor when you
speak, then he may be doing it out of guilt.
If he doesn't give you affection. If he used to
shower you with affection but rarely touches
you, this is a red flag.
If he shows you affection in private, but not in
public. Though some guys are just shy about
showing affection in public, if he's all over
you when you're home, or even when you're
home and hanging out with a few friends, but
stands a foot away from you when you're at a
restaurant, he may be worried that his other
lady will spot you two together.
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Method Two of Four:
Investigate
Ask if he's cheating. Once the signs have
added up and you feel like you've already
found out that he's cheating, it's time to make him
confess. The easiest way is just to have a
conversation about it. Then you can avoid
snooping through his stuff, getting hurt when you
see something you don't like, and spare yourself
the extra pain and humiliation. Here's how to do it:
Catch him off guard. You should still pick the
right time and place to do it, but you should
ask him when he's not expecting it so he'll be
less likely to come up with a brilliant lie.
Tell him you'd prefer honesty over more lies.
Make it sound like he's doing you a favor by
confessing---which he really is doing.
Say, "I think we'll both feel better once this is
out in the open." Make it sound like he would
be very relieved to stop lying to you. He
probably will. Living a double life is
exhausting.
Make eye contact. Be really sincere. Show him
that he's really hurting you.
If you're afraid to ask yourself but don't want
to take the extreme route of following him or
looking through his things, ask one of your
friends, or even one of his friends who you
really like. Chances are, if his friend knows
about his shady behavior, he may not feel
good about it, either.
Follow him. If you're afraid to have a
conversation or feel like you don't have
enough evidence, follow him to see what he's
really up to. You have to be sneaky about it or
he'll know, lose trust in you, and won't give you
any evidence. Here's what to do:
Follow him in a friend's car. If he says he's
hanging out with the boys and you really
want to see what he's doing, follow him in a
friend's car so he doesn't notice it's you.
"Pop in" on him when he's not expecting it.
Come over at random times, like when he says
he's cleaning for you or not feeling well. If
he's not feeling well, bring over some soup
and act like you're trying to be sweet.
Whether he's with another girl or not, see how
he acts. Is he happy to see you, or angry that
you showed up without warning?
See if he's really working overtime. That's
easy. Just drop by his work to give him coffee
or a late-night snack to see if he's there. Or
just drive by to see if his car is there.
Snoop through his things. Snooping through
your man's things is the quickest way to break
trust and put your relationship in jeopardy, but if
you're really sure he's cheating and just want to
put the nail in the coffin, then go for it. Here's
what you do:
Look through his phone. If he's a good
cheater, he'll make it impossible for you to
look through his phone, but try anyway. Go
through it when he's sleeping, or see if he
drops it when he's getting out of the car and
pick it up.
Check his computer. If he's dumb enough to
leave his computer open, check out his email
and his Facebook messages. This will let you
know if he's cheating pretty soon. Also notice
if he meticulously deletes all of his emails.
That's a little fishy too.
Look through his stuff. If he's sleeping or not
home, go through his desk, his bag, or even
his wallet for any signs of affection from
another lady.
Check his bank statements. Do you not
remember him spending $200 on you at a
romantic Italian place? Then he must have
been shelling out cash for another lady.
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Method Three of Four:
Notice What he Does
See if there's a change in your sex life. If he
has another girlfriend, he may stop spending
as much time in the bedroom with you, but it could
also make him want to have more sex. Here are
some things to look:
If you're having a really long dry spell. If he
never wants to have sex anymore, he may be
getting it somewhere else.
If he suddenly has a voracious sexual
appetite. If he wants to have sex all the time
all of a sudden, it may be because his sex
drive has gone up from sleeping with another
lady.
If he tries a ton of new moves in bed. He could
be picking these up from another girl.
See if he's much nicer or more helpful. Your
boyfriend may have some serious guilt
because he's cheating on you, and this will
actually make him much nicer to you. If you find
that suddenly he's helping out around the house a
lot more or doing a ton of favors for you, he may be
doing it to compensate.
If he cleans your apartment, fixes your car, or
buys your groceries and has never done those
things before, there may be a reason for it.
If he's always asking if there's any way he can
help.
If he's suddenly Mr. Romance and brings you
candy and flowers, especially after a long
period where he was distant.
See if he's meticulously clean all of a sudden.
If your boyfriend never cared about the state of
his car or apartment but now he's taking hours to
clean it, he may be doing it to clean up for another
lady or to hide evidence of her.
If his car used to be messy and is now
spotless, he may be keeping it fresh for
another lady.
If his apartment is much cleaner than it used
to be, and if he always says he needs some
time to clean up, he may be cleaning it to get
rid of evidence of his other girl. If you really
want to find out if he's cheating on you, come
over when he says he is "cleaning his
apartment" and see what he's really up to.
If he uses air freshener in his car or home. He
may be using it to hide the smell of his lead
lady.
See if his mood changes. Whether he seems to
always be in a good mood, or is just moody all
the time instead of his usual even-keeled self, then
something is up. Pay attention to his mood to see
if something is up:
If he's sometimes in a ridiculously good mood,
like he's walking on sunshine, for no apparent
reason. If he's grinning ear to ear and looking
off into the distance like he's remembering a
fond memory with another girl, then chances
are his good mood has nothing to do with
you.
If he's suddenly in a terrible mood. If
everything seems fine and he's suddenly
furious or very upset, especially after a phone
call or text message, then another girl may
have had something to do with it.
See if he engages in generally shady behavior.
Shady behavior is pretty easy to spot, and if
he's doing at least a few shady things, then it can
only add up to him sneaking around to spend time
with another girl. Here are some signs:
If he's spending a lot of time texting and on
the phone. If he stops texting or ends his
phone call as soon as you leave the room.
If he's suddenly spending a lot of time online.
This could be a sign that he's chatting it up
with another girl. If he slams his computer
shut when you walk into a room, that is a bad
sign.
If he disappears for hours, and is just
incommunicado for a day, a night, or even a
weekend. If he can't take the time to answer
your call or just send you a quick message,
then he may be with another girl.
If he shuts his phone off for hours on end.
Why else would he do that?

15 ways to always feel happy

A Romanian blogger Luminita Saviuc believes she
had found the secrets to happiness.
Saviuc outlined her list of 15 things you must stop
doing to secure emotional wellbeing in a Facebook
post, which was shared more than 1.3 million times.
Check them out below.
1. Give up the need to always be right
Luminita advises taking the advice of self-help guru
Wayne Dyer whenever you feel the overwhelming
need to prove your point: ‘ Would you rather be right,
or would you rather be kind? ’ If you feel the urge to
get into an argument that you know will hurt
someone else, just to drive home the fact that you’re
correct, take a pause. Ask yourself how much it really
matters and if your ego really can’t handle just letting
it go.
2. Give up the need to be in control
Many of struggle with needing to be in control of
every situation. It could be something that arises in
your working environment, a conflict that breaks out
with a stranger on the street, or even the behaviour of
a loved one. Allowing them to just ‘be’ and accepting
that you can’t control situations or other people’s
behaviour will make you feel a lot calmer.

3. Give up on blame
This is all about taking personal responsibility. Stop
placing the blame on to others for your own feelings
or for things that you don’t have in life. They may
have hurt you or taken something away from you, but
blaming them just dilutes your personal power and
prevent you from taking responsibility for your
own life.
4. Give up on self-defeating inner thoughts
‘ How many people are hurting themselves because of
their negative, polluted and repetitive self-defeating
mindset? ’ Luminita said. ‘ Don’t believe everything that
your mind is telling you – especially if it’s negative and
self-defeating. You are better than that .’
5. Give up your limiting beliefs
Stop telling yourself that you can’t do certain things or
that what you want out of life is impossible. This will
do nothing but keep you stuck in a rut.
6. Give up complaining
This is a reminder that situations can only make you
feel upset if you allow them to. If you complain that
something is making you feel sad, angry or anxious
rather than looking at it positively then you will
experience all of those things.
7. Give up criticising
Resist the temptation to criticise situations or people
who are different to you.  Realise that everyone is the
same in terms of their need to be loved and their
desire to be understood and that we all have dreams.
8. Give up trying to impress people
There’s no point trying to be something you’re not in
order to make other people like you. Accepting
yourself and revealing the real you will mean people
are naturally drawn to you without any effort.
9. Give up resisting change
Stop seeing change as a negative and realise it’s
something that will actually help you see
improvements in your life.

10. Give up labels
If you see things, people or events that you don’t
understand as ‘weird and different’ then you will
never be able to grow and learn. Stop labelling those
things, people or events that you don’t understand as
being weird or different and try opening your mind,
little by little. Minds only work when open.
11. Give up your fears
You’ll be surprised how freeing it is if you decide to
stop being afraid of a situation or person that fills you
with dread. Fear is created in the mind and doesn’t
exist outside of it, so you can choose not to fuel it.
12. Give up excuses
For the most part, excuses do nothing but stop us
from growing. Instead of improving and moving
forward, they keep us stuck and lying to ourselves
when a lot of the time they aren’t event real.
13. Give up the past
Living in the past will do nothing but prevent you
enjoying the present moment.  And while it’s good to
have a clear vision for what you want in the future,
your priority should always be living in the here
and now.
14. Give up attachment
Luminita admits that this is something she found hard
and still struggles with. ‘The moment you detach
yourself from all things, you become so peaceful, so
tolerant, so kind, and so serene,’ she said. ‘ You will get
to a place where you will be able to understand all
things without even trying. A state beyond words.’
15. Give up living your life according to other's
expectations
Too many people live their lives according to what
other people think is best for them and ignore their
own needs and ambitions.This can only lead to losing
control and forgetting about what makes you truly
happy. If you constantly please other people you will
eventually end up forgetting who you are.

Woman gets married nacked read why

This was why this obese woman wanted a
naked wedding
Updated:
An overweight woman who weighs 165kg has
decided to get married naked, in front of 700
guests.
According to reports, 31-year-old Monique Penberthy
found out her wedding dress order was canceled why
she was in a coma.
Monique developed a flesh-eating condition known as
necrotizing fasciitis shortly before her big day so the
wedding was called off and she lost her dream dress.
She came out of a coma after 31 days, determined to
be wedded.

She could not find any dress she loved as much as the
last one so she suggested to her groom-to-be, Rowan,
that they wed in the nude.
This was exactly what they did on March 27, both
putting on just a veil, necklace, top hat and bow tie.

Speaking to the press, Monique said:
“I’d survived death so what did my weight matter? I
wasn’t embarrassed.”
“ I was more concerned about my hair looking okay, as
it had fallen out in clumps since my coma, leaving me
self-conscious.
“After, everyone hugged and congratulated us. It was
beautiful, a dream come true.”
She evidently chose to go nude than wear a dress she
did not love. What do you think? Brave, or wrong?
Would you ever attend a naked wedding?

4 type of women men should never marry

If you marry these women, you may be
unhappy in the family!

Marriage can make you either happy or miserable.
Since these days most women work and build
careers, you have to be wise in your choice. Some
professions make ladies less fit for marriage than
others. If you wish to be happy with your wife,
never marry nurses, lawyers, police women or TV
news presenters or models. And here is why.
Things rapidly change in our community and a new
culture of relationship is being introduced. In the past
women cooked, took care of children and homes and
that was about it. Presently, they get education, make
money and become bosses. It changes the old course
of life in the family. Some professions do not add up
to the family happiness.
Do not marry women of these professions, if you
wish to be happy:
1. Lawyers
These ladies know their rights and the law. In most
cases, they know the law much better than their
husbands do. So, if you wish to be the head of the
house or divorce a woman like that, you get yourself
into some serious trouble.
She can sue you and get all the property, kids, money,
etc. She can take a firm stand for her rights and leave
you with nothing! Do not mess around with a lawyer
wife.

2. Police women
They are tough. Their work demands them to be
tough. And that thing does not pass when they return
home. So, often instead of being disciplined by their
husbands, they discipline the men. And they can be
called back to work at any hour of the day or night.
So, they do not really have much time for the family
life, cooking or the household.
3. Models or news presenters
One thing these ladies have in common is their
beauty. They are hot; that’s why you are after them.
But unless you are a tycoon or a politician, you have
few chances of keeping her love and faithfulness.
These women are seen by many; rich and famous get
attracted to them. They have much more to offer than
you do and… well, you know that story. Only a few
women can resist the temptation of money and power.
READ ALSO: These 10 signs show if the girl is dating
you for money!
4. Nurses
These girls are constantly on duty. They help the sick
and suffering people. That’s good, but it drains them
emotionally. They see so much suffering that it can
make them uninterested in sex or emotional relations
with you. Plus, many of them tend to fall in love with
doctors or even patients and have sex with them.
So, men, if you are after the traditional pattern of
marriage, do not hook up with the ladies from these
professions. They will frustrate your expectations.

See how Nigerian citizen protect their food

Nigeria is one of the biggest country in Africa .and with 75% of corruption .Each man fears his brother so look how they protect their property

Woman bit man penis off

It is emerging that the Fire Officer whose genital was
bitten, has claimed that the lady is his girlfriend, a claim
she has strongly disputed.
Eric Ansah, the Techiman Municipal Fire Officer in the
Brong-Ahafo Region, reportedly told the police in his
statement that his subordinate who bit his penis is his
girlfriend.
The Fire Officer, who has been suspended over the
alleged sexual escapade, reportedly had his penis bitten
by his female subordinate, whose name was given as
Ataa Takyi, 24.
But the lady has told the police that the fireman
attempted to rape her in the early hours of Saturday at
her residence in Techiman.
As a result, the Ghana National Fire Service (GNFS) has
sharply reacted to the reported sexual misconduct of the
officer by suspending him.
Following the media report, Chief Fire Officer, Albert
Brown Gaisie, is said to have directed the Brong-Ahafo
Regional Fire Command to suspend the officer in
question for allegedly sexually assaulting the lady who
is a subordinate employed under the Youth In Fire
module of the Youth Employment Agency (YEA).
The fire lady told DAILY GUIDE that at about 12.20 am
last Saturday, she heard a knock on her door and went
to open it only to see Mr. Ansah (her boss) standing
there with a large plastic bag.
She said when she asked him why he was there at that
time of the night, the officer told her that he wanted to
bring her some dirty clothes to wash for him.
According to Ataa, when she collected the bag and
turned to enter her room, the fire chief followed her and
sat on one of the chairs in the room.
She said when she asked him to leave the room because
she was going to bed, her boss refused to do so.

Instead, the lady claimed the officer began fondling her
breasts and pulling her cloth.
She said she complained bitterly but the officer told her
that as the municipal fire officer, he could get whatever
he wanted and so she should give in.
“I resisted initially and later he threatened me saying he
is the commander and so anything he wants he gets it;
and because he said that I got scared he would do
something bad to me,” Ataa narrated.
“Being afraid of losing my job, I decided to give in with
a different motive to defend myself.
“I told him I am ready and so he should do whatever he
wants to do with me; but after romancing with him for
three minutes, I grabbed his penis and bit it hard,”
according to Ataa.
She said the officer collapsed as blood was oozing from
his manhood.
She said she realised he was bleeding and feared he
could lose his life and therefore called for help, adding
that Mr Ansah was taken to the Dr Kesse Hospital at
Techiman for medical attention.
He was treated and discharged.
The Deputy Public Relations Officer (PRO) of the Fire
Service, Prince Billy Anaglatey, said even though the
Regional Fire Service had not officially lodged a
complaint with the national headquarters, they had
asked that the officer in question be suspended for now.
Speaking to pulse.com, he said, “We have not received
any official report from anybody, but quickly the Chief
Fire Officer has directed the Brong-Ahafo Regional
Commander to immediately suspend the Municipal Fire
Officer who has been mentioned in the case.”