A Romanian blogger Luminita Saviuc believes she
had found the secrets to happiness.
Saviuc outlined her list of 15 things you must stop
doing to secure emotional wellbeing in a Facebook
post, which was shared more than 1.3 million times.
Check them out below.
1. Give up the need to always be right
Luminita advises taking the advice of self-help guru
Wayne Dyer whenever you feel the overwhelming
need to prove your point: ‘ Would you rather be right,
or would you rather be kind? ’ If you feel the urge to
get into an argument that you know will hurt
someone else, just to drive home the fact that you’re
correct, take a pause. Ask yourself how much it really
matters and if your ego really can’t handle just letting
it go.
2. Give up the need to be in control
Many of struggle with needing to be in control of
every situation. It could be something that arises in
your working environment, a conflict that breaks out
with a stranger on the street, or even the behaviour of
a loved one. Allowing them to just ‘be’ and accepting
that you can’t control situations or other people’s
behaviour will make you feel a lot calmer.
3. Give up on blame
This is all about taking personal responsibility. Stop
placing the blame on to others for your own feelings
or for things that you don’t have in life. They may
have hurt you or taken something away from you, but
blaming them just dilutes your personal power and
prevent you from taking responsibility for your
own life.
4. Give up on self-defeating inner thoughts
‘ How many people are hurting themselves because of
their negative, polluted and repetitive self-defeating
mindset? ’ Luminita said. ‘ Don’t believe everything that
your mind is telling you – especially if it’s negative and
self-defeating. You are better than that .’
5. Give up your limiting beliefs
Stop telling yourself that you can’t do certain things or
that what you want out of life is impossible. This will
do nothing but keep you stuck in a rut.
6. Give up complaining
This is a reminder that situations can only make you
feel upset if you allow them to. If you complain that
something is making you feel sad, angry or anxious
rather than looking at it positively then you will
experience all of those things.
7. Give up criticising
Resist the temptation to criticise situations or people
who are different to you. Realise that everyone is the
same in terms of their need to be loved and their
desire to be understood and that we all have dreams.
8. Give up trying to impress people
There’s no point trying to be something you’re not in
order to make other people like you. Accepting
yourself and revealing the real you will mean people
are naturally drawn to you without any effort.
9. Give up resisting change
Stop seeing change as a negative and realise it’s
something that will actually help you see
improvements in your life.
10. Give up labels
If you see things, people or events that you don’t
understand as ‘weird and different’ then you will
never be able to grow and learn. Stop labelling those
things, people or events that you don’t understand as
being weird or different and try opening your mind,
little by little. Minds only work when open.
11. Give up your fears
You’ll be surprised how freeing it is if you decide to
stop being afraid of a situation or person that fills you
with dread. Fear is created in the mind and doesn’t
exist outside of it, so you can choose not to fuel it.
12. Give up excuses
For the most part, excuses do nothing but stop us
from growing. Instead of improving and moving
forward, they keep us stuck and lying to ourselves
when a lot of the time they aren’t event real.
13. Give up the past
Living in the past will do nothing but prevent you
enjoying the present moment. And while it’s good to
have a clear vision for what you want in the future,
your priority should always be living in the here
and now.
14. Give up attachment
Luminita admits that this is something she found hard
and still struggles with. ‘The moment you detach
yourself from all things, you become so peaceful, so
tolerant, so kind, and so serene,’ she said. ‘ You will get
to a place where you will be able to understand all
things without even trying. A state beyond words.’
15. Give up living your life according to other's
expectations
Too many people live their lives according to what
other people think is best for them and ignore their
own needs and ambitions.This can only lead to losing
control and forgetting about what makes you truly
happy. If you constantly please other people you will
eventually end up forgetting who you are.
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