Ways to notice he is cheating on you

How to Find out if Your Boyfriend Is
Cheating on You (for Girls)
Whether you're starting a new relationship, or in the
middle of a serious relationship, there's always a
chance that your boyfriend could be cheating on you.
If you have reasons to suspect he's cheating, or if
you're just wondering if you're over thinking it, follow
these easy steps to find out whether or not your man
is being faithful.
Method One of Four:
Notice his Appearance
See if his looks have changed. Your man's
appearance can say a lot about whether or not
he's cheating. If he didn't care much about his
appearance before, but now spends more time
grooming than you do, then something is up. He
may be improving or changing his looks to please
his side piece. Here are some signs that he's
grooming for someone else:
If he used to be scruffy before, but he's always
shaving.
If he gets routine haircuts now, but let his
hair grow shaggy before.
If his clothes have improved significantly.
If you catch him starting in the mirror to study
his looks.
If he always looks nice, even when he's
supposed to be studying or working overtime.
A big red flag is if he smells different. Whether
his body chemistry has changed slightly from
being with another woman, or if he outright
smells like perfume, this is a big sign that
he's been spending time with someone else.
If there are stray hairs on his body and clothes
that do not belong to you.
Pay attention to how he treats his body. If
your man suddenly cares a lot more about his
body than he did before, then he may not be doing
it just for you. Unless he's suddenly determined to
run a marathon, it's more likely that he's improving
his body for another lady. Here are some signs:
If he's suddenly working out all the time and
cares a great deal about his appearance.
Remember that going to the gym could also
just be another excuse for seeing his lady.
If he's dramatically changed his diet to be
healthier. He could be doing this to impress
someone else.
If he's weirdly shy with his body around you
and doesn't want you to see him with his
shirt off, and only wants to have sex in the
dark. This could mean that he feels he's being
disloyal to his other woman.
Pay attention to his body language. Your
man's body language can go a long way in
telling you how he feels about you, and if he's
really thinking about someone else instead of you.
Here are a few signs that he may be cheating on
you:
If he doesn't make eye contact when you talk.
If he used to be Mr. Eye Contact, but now he
always looks away or at the floor when you
speak, then he may be doing it out of guilt.
If he doesn't give you affection. If he used to
shower you with affection but rarely touches
you, this is a red flag.
If he shows you affection in private, but not in
public. Though some guys are just shy about
showing affection in public, if he's all over
you when you're home, or even when you're
home and hanging out with a few friends, but
stands a foot away from you when you're at a
restaurant, he may be worried that his other
lady will spot you two together.
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Method Two of Four:
Investigate
Ask if he's cheating. Once the signs have
added up and you feel like you've already
found out that he's cheating, it's time to make him
confess. The easiest way is just to have a
conversation about it. Then you can avoid
snooping through his stuff, getting hurt when you
see something you don't like, and spare yourself
the extra pain and humiliation. Here's how to do it:
Catch him off guard. You should still pick the
right time and place to do it, but you should
ask him when he's not expecting it so he'll be
less likely to come up with a brilliant lie.
Tell him you'd prefer honesty over more lies.
Make it sound like he's doing you a favor by
confessing---which he really is doing.
Say, "I think we'll both feel better once this is
out in the open." Make it sound like he would
be very relieved to stop lying to you. He
probably will. Living a double life is
exhausting.
Make eye contact. Be really sincere. Show him
that he's really hurting you.
If you're afraid to ask yourself but don't want
to take the extreme route of following him or
looking through his things, ask one of your
friends, or even one of his friends who you
really like. Chances are, if his friend knows
about his shady behavior, he may not feel
good about it, either.
Follow him. If you're afraid to have a
conversation or feel like you don't have
enough evidence, follow him to see what he's
really up to. You have to be sneaky about it or
he'll know, lose trust in you, and won't give you
any evidence. Here's what to do:
Follow him in a friend's car. If he says he's
hanging out with the boys and you really
want to see what he's doing, follow him in a
friend's car so he doesn't notice it's you.
"Pop in" on him when he's not expecting it.
Come over at random times, like when he says
he's cleaning for you or not feeling well. If
he's not feeling well, bring over some soup
and act like you're trying to be sweet.
Whether he's with another girl or not, see how
he acts. Is he happy to see you, or angry that
you showed up without warning?
See if he's really working overtime. That's
easy. Just drop by his work to give him coffee
or a late-night snack to see if he's there. Or
just drive by to see if his car is there.
Snoop through his things. Snooping through
your man's things is the quickest way to break
trust and put your relationship in jeopardy, but if
you're really sure he's cheating and just want to
put the nail in the coffin, then go for it. Here's
what you do:
Look through his phone. If he's a good
cheater, he'll make it impossible for you to
look through his phone, but try anyway. Go
through it when he's sleeping, or see if he
drops it when he's getting out of the car and
pick it up.
Check his computer. If he's dumb enough to
leave his computer open, check out his email
and his Facebook messages. This will let you
know if he's cheating pretty soon. Also notice
if he meticulously deletes all of his emails.
That's a little fishy too.
Look through his stuff. If he's sleeping or not
home, go through his desk, his bag, or even
his wallet for any signs of affection from
another lady.
Check his bank statements. Do you not
remember him spending $200 on you at a
romantic Italian place? Then he must have
been shelling out cash for another lady.
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Method Three of Four:
Notice What he Does
See if there's a change in your sex life. If he
has another girlfriend, he may stop spending
as much time in the bedroom with you, but it could
also make him want to have more sex. Here are
some things to look:
If you're having a really long dry spell. If he
never wants to have sex anymore, he may be
getting it somewhere else.
If he suddenly has a voracious sexual
appetite. If he wants to have sex all the time
all of a sudden, it may be because his sex
drive has gone up from sleeping with another
lady.
If he tries a ton of new moves in bed. He could
be picking these up from another girl.
See if he's much nicer or more helpful. Your
boyfriend may have some serious guilt
because he's cheating on you, and this will
actually make him much nicer to you. If you find
that suddenly he's helping out around the house a
lot more or doing a ton of favors for you, he may be
doing it to compensate.
If he cleans your apartment, fixes your car, or
buys your groceries and has never done those
things before, there may be a reason for it.
If he's always asking if there's any way he can
help.
If he's suddenly Mr. Romance and brings you
candy and flowers, especially after a long
period where he was distant.
See if he's meticulously clean all of a sudden.
If your boyfriend never cared about the state of
his car or apartment but now he's taking hours to
clean it, he may be doing it to clean up for another
lady or to hide evidence of her.
If his car used to be messy and is now
spotless, he may be keeping it fresh for
another lady.
If his apartment is much cleaner than it used
to be, and if he always says he needs some
time to clean up, he may be cleaning it to get
rid of evidence of his other girl. If you really
want to find out if he's cheating on you, come
over when he says he is "cleaning his
apartment" and see what he's really up to.
If he uses air freshener in his car or home. He
may be using it to hide the smell of his lead
lady.
See if his mood changes. Whether he seems to
always be in a good mood, or is just moody all
the time instead of his usual even-keeled self, then
something is up. Pay attention to his mood to see
if something is up:
If he's sometimes in a ridiculously good mood,
like he's walking on sunshine, for no apparent
reason. If he's grinning ear to ear and looking
off into the distance like he's remembering a
fond memory with another girl, then chances
are his good mood has nothing to do with
you.
If he's suddenly in a terrible mood. If
everything seems fine and he's suddenly
furious or very upset, especially after a phone
call or text message, then another girl may
have had something to do with it.
See if he engages in generally shady behavior.
Shady behavior is pretty easy to spot, and if
he's doing at least a few shady things, then it can
only add up to him sneaking around to spend time
with another girl. Here are some signs:
If he's spending a lot of time texting and on
the phone. If he stops texting or ends his
phone call as soon as you leave the room.
If he's suddenly spending a lot of time online.
This could be a sign that he's chatting it up
with another girl. If he slams his computer
shut when you walk into a room, that is a bad
sign.
If he disappears for hours, and is just
incommunicado for a day, a night, or even a
weekend. If he can't take the time to answer
your call or just send you a quick message,
then he may be with another girl.
If he shuts his phone off for hours on end.
Why else would he do that?