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Your sex needs are not met? Learn the
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What happens when you want something in bed from
your partner, but they are slow to grant it? Do you
just give up, but keep wanting it? There is a better
way!
This way is called negotiation. Both men and women
have all kinds of rather innocent things they want in
bed. Unfortunately those desires do not always fall in
line in the couple. So, why not negotiate what you
want?
Let’s get a practical example. A man likes to do little
spanking of the bums of his wife, but she does not
fancy the idea. On the other hand, she wants him to
do more gentle kissing or to get a longer foreplay. He
can start pushing his idea through and she can be
mad with him and upset for not meeting her needs.
This way leaves everyone unhappy and angry.
How about negotiating it? A woman can say: well, you
can do little spanking If you want it so much, but first
we kiss as long as I want or do the foreplay my way.
And the other way around. You can exchange favors in
bed. That is not a bad idea, not at all!
She gets what she wants and feels less resilient about
giving him what he covets. Everyone is happy. And
once you try those things, who knows, you may
become rather fond of them. It may turn out little
spanking turns her on, too. And longer kissing makes
him come in a hotter fashion.
Practical tips on sex negotiations:
– Sit down and chat
– Gently state your request
– No anger or strong emotions
– Never accuse your spouse of anything
– Do not tell what makes you unhappy, but talk of
what makes you happy instead
– Be polite
– Be an active listener and mirror what s/he says to
you
– Offer valid exchange options for what you want
– Be willing to go an extra mile and pay the price
– Set up boundaries (the things you can do and the
things you can’t and won’t)
– Be loving
Bed is a great place for experiments and negotiations.
It is a give and take game. Everyone losses when they
push their ideas through, but everyone wins, when
you do little favors in exchange.