How to stop masturbation

You can overcome your masturbation
problem with these tips

Masturbation can quickly turn into a dangerous habit.
It can even become an addiction and ruin your life.
How do you stop it? Let’s get some practical tips on
becoming free.
Do only men masturbate?
For some reason, women are viewed as less sexual
beings than men. That’s not true. They have human
bodies with passions and desires, too. However, many
ladies are even more ashamed to acknowledge the fact
they masturbate, because it is so “unladylike”. But,
yes, women also do it!
Who are these people?
You may be an excellent person with high morals. You
have a good education and profession; you may even
attend the church or be in the ministry. And you are
ashamed to admit: you cannot stop masturbating. You
not alone!
Those who do it are not only some immoral jerks,
drunkards or sinners. Most people have done it a few
times in their lives. Even pastors and ministers do it!
And the better person you are, the harder it gets for
you to ask for help!
How does it start?
At times our friends get us into it. They offer you to
watch a porn movie or get online and visit some “hot”
website. You get fun and barely notice how the
onetime thing turns into a habit and a habit transforms
into an addiction.
There are some men out there who spend hours online
watch porn and masturbating up to 20 times a day!
They really cannot stop it. They have completely lost
control over the thing.
How do they feel about it?
Some of them refuse to admit the addiction. It works
the same way any addiction does. Those who drink or
do drugs often fail to recognize the problem. The
same things happen with masturbation. Others crave
to get help but are too ashamed to confront their
problem openly.
They feel helpless and lonely. They cannot approach
their family members or pastors to ask for help. Some
of these people are ministers, and they have no one
to help them without judging them. They get
desperate.
What can masturbation addiction do to you?
It can ruin your walk with God. It can destroy your
family, too. You see, you have a secret. You start
having a secret life and cannot share it with your
spouse. And many men become unable to perform in
bed with the real women. They need porn to get the
erection. So, it kills you the natural ability for sex.
How to stop the addiction to porn and masturbation:
1. Find help
Get online and find a community where people with
the similar problems get help. Meet a counselor or
talk to the minister.
2. Block the porn sites
There are programs you can use to do that. Deny
yourself access to such sites.
3. Avoid solitude
It’s hard to withstand the temptation if you stay alone
much. Get out, be with your family, spend time with
kids or friends.
4. Get a new hobby
Get a new interest in life. Learn something new. Join
some group or start learning a new language or
instrument.
5. Do workouts
Physical exercises help you to get refocused and shift
your attention from sex and masturbation to
something else.
6. Talk to your spouse
It’s best to do it with the counselor. Open up and
share your problem. Explain why you had recent
troubles in sex with your wife or husband. Ask them
to help you.
7. Be accountable
Get a support group or a friend and promise to tell
them the truth. Become accountable to someone and
be honest with them no matter what.
8. Pray
Set up special prayer time and ask God to get your
body under control.
Remember you are not alone in this problem and you
can beat it. God and other people can help you
overcome the addiction.

9 things you should consider before watching porn

“Because the human brain is the biological anchor of
our psychological experience, it is helpful to
understand how it operates.” says William M.
Struthers, associate professor of psychology at
Wheaton College. “Knowing how it is wired together
and where it is sensitive can help us understand why
pornography affects people the way it does.” Here are
9 things you should know about pornography affects
the brain.
1. Sexually explicit material triggers mirror neurons in
the male brain. These neurons, which are involved
with the process for how to mimic a behavior,
contain a motor system that correlates to the
planning out of a behavior. In the case of
pornography, this mirror neuron system triggers the
arousal, which leads to sexual tension and a need
for an outlet. “The unfortunate reality is that when he
acts out (often by masturbating), this leads to
hormonal and neurological consequences, which are
designed to bind him to the object he is focusing
on,” says Struthers . “In God's plan, this would be his
wife, but for many men it is an image on a screen.
Pornography thus enslaves the viewer to an image,
hijacking the biological response intended to bond a
man to his wife and therefore inevitably loosening
that bond.”
2. In men, there are five primary chemicals involved
in sexual arousal and response. The one that likely
plays the most significant role in pornography
addiction is dopamine . Dopamine plays a major role
in the brain system that is responsible for reward-
driven learning. Every type of reward that has been
studied increases the level of dopamine transmission
in the brain, and a variety of addictive drugs,
including stimulants such as cocaine, amphetamine,
and methamphetamine, act directly on the dopamine
system. Dopamine surges when a person is exposed
to novel stimuli, particularly if it is sexual, or when a
stimuli is more arousing than anticipated. Because
erotic imagery triggers more dopamine than sex with
a familiar partner, exposure to pornography leads to
“arousal addiction” and teaches the brain to prefer
the image and become less satisfied with real-life
sexual partners.
3. Why do men seek out a variety of new explicit
sexual images rather than being satisfied with the
same ones? The reason is attributed to the Coolidge
effect , a phenomenon seen in mammalian species
whereby males (and to a lesser extent females)
exhibit renewed sexual interest if introduced to new
receptive sexual partners, even after refusing sex
from prior but still available sexual partners. This
neurological mechanism is one of the primary
reasons for the abundance and addictiveness of
Internet pornography.
4. Overstimulation of the reward circuitry—such as
occurs with repeated dopamine spikes related to
viewing pornography—creates desensitization. As
Gary Wilson explains , “When dopamine receptors
drop after too much stimulation, the brain doesn't
respond as much, and we feel less reward from
pleasure. That drives us to search even harder for
feelings of satisfaction—for example, by seeking out
more extreme sexual stimuli, longer porn sessions, or
more frequent porn viewing—thus further numbing the
brain.
5. “The psychological, behavioral, and emotional
habits that form our sexual character will be based
on the decisions we make,” says Struthers.
“Whenever the sequence of arousal and response is
activated, it forms a neurological memory that will
influence future processing and response to sexual
cues. As this pathway becomes activated and
traveled, it becomes a preferred route—a mental
journey—that is regularly trod. The consequences of
this are far-reaching.”
6. What makes Internet porn unique? Wilson identifies
a number of reasons, including: (1) Internet porn
offers extreme novelty; (2) Unlike food and drugs,
there are almost no physical limitations to Internet
porn consumption; (3) With Internet porn one can
escalate both with more novel “partners” and by
viewing new and unusual genres; (4) Unlike drugs
and food, Internet porn doesn't eventually activate
the brain's natural aversion system; and (5) The age
users start watching porn. A teen's brain is at its
peak of dopamine production and neuroplasticity,
making it highly vulnerable to addiction and rewiring.
7. Men's exposure to sexually explicit material is
correlated with social anxiety, depression, low
motivation, erectile dysfunction , concentration
problems , and negative self-perceptions in terms of
physical appearance and sexual functioning.

Things that happen to women during sex

Ladies do these things in bed and laugh
hard over them
Our bodies can do many funny sounds and things,
especially when we get busy. This list of stuff is
hilarious, and you may have done some of them in
bed. Laugh away.
You fart during intercourse
That’s a pretty sensitive topic! However, since the
private parts are located close to the butt and
absolute pressure is caused by the penis on your
intestines, you may fart. Men do that too, but women
do it more often due to their physiology. When you are
with the partner for a long time, it’s ok. Both of you
may not even notice it or have a hearty laugh over it.
But what if you are with someone for the first time?
You kick the guy…
…on his balls. That happens a lot. When the girl feels
right or is a bit clumsy, she may accidentally kick
him. How do you know you just did it? Well, the poor
fellow folds in half and tries not to scream or curse.
You pee on him
Penis rubs against your urethra, and it may evoke the
desire to pee. Some girls can’t control it, and things
happen.
You break his penis
Penile fracture is not a very common injury, but it
happens. Especially if you two use the cowgirl
position. The girl on the top is the most dangerous
position for sex. It hurts a lot and the situation is
embarrassing, but it is also funny.
Surely there are more situations that make people
laugh over the unlucky lovers, but those sound a bit
dirty. So, let’s just leave them out!

Check out this male gay guy in Nigeria

Man lives open gay life in Nigeria

One Idris Okuneye is defying odds in Nigeria by living
his gay life in the open despite the country’s general
intolerance for homosexuals.
Nicknamed ‘Nigeria’s Male Barbie,’ Idris parades his
lifestyle freely and confidently on social media and is
proud to admit his affairs with men.
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real people!
He claims his lifestyle is normally sponsored by men
he dates and shows off gifts he is given.
Aside that, Bobrisky, as he is popularly known is said
to be a bleaching expert. His fair complexion is not
natural based on ‘before and after’ pictures that
emerged following his popularity.
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He has in the past advertised and endorsed bleaching
products in several social media posts.
He also wears heavy makeup and wears artificial nails
to compliment his look.

who met Facebook founder, Mark
Bobrisky celebrated his birthday on the 31 st of August
2016 with a big birthday bash, sponsored by his ‘bae’,
at Escape Nightclub, Lagos.
Check out his birthday look.

Boy get his hands chopped of in Kenya

Boy hands are chopped off in suspected
thievery

A teenage boy has  his hands caught of and almost lost
his life too at the hands of four men who accused him
of stealing a medicinal plant.
Nairobi news reports that the 17-year-old boy, who
hails from Mporoko village in Kenya was attacked by
three men in the same village saying the boy has
stolen ‘miraa’ (medicinal flowering plant).

to death after she leaves him (Graphic photos)
He sustained a deep cut on his head while both hands
were chopped off at the wrist during the attack and is
currently recuperating at Meru Teaching and Referral
Hospital, Kenya.
Speaking to Nairobi News from his hospital bed, the
victim said he identified the assailants who included
two young men, their father and grandfather.
“I was walking home on a path next to their farm when
one of the men called me. Because I knew them, I
went where they were. They started accusing me of
being a miraa thief. While I was defending myself, one
of them jumped and cut me on the head,” he narrated.

He went on to add that the father of the two men tied
my hands and placed them on a post and the others
chopped off his hands.
The attackers stripped the boy naked and left him for
dead in the middle of the nearby road. They knew the
boy would not be able to go home since it is a taboo
in the village for a circumcised man to walk naked.
“I hid myself in the bush until around 12am when I
walked home. I reached home at around 2am,” the
miracle survivor said.
The victim’s lawyer Kirimi Mbogo said three suspects
identified as Kirema M’Itirikia, M’Itirikia Itirikia and
Stanley Kibundu are in police custody while others are
being sought by police.
He has pledged to get justice for the underage victim
of the senseless act.

How much sex is enough

Scientists know for sure how much sex is
enough

Men and women struggle with the question: how much
sex is too much or too little? What is enough and
what is normal? Let’s get some clear answered based
on your age.
Age is the key component to taking into the account
when considering physical intimacy and its frequency.
So, how much sex is enough?
Kinsey Institute’s scientists have conducted a study
and broken down people into the age groups. What
they found out is amazing. Those ranging from 18 to
29 years of age in average should have 112 times per
year. Roughly this is once in three days.
People in their 30ss (30-39) in average have sex 86
times per year, which is once in 4 days. People in
their 40ss get busy only 69 times per year in average.
13 percents of all the married couples have sex only
several times per year. 45 percent get it several times
per months. Only 34 percent of all the couples have
sex 2-3 times per week, and just 7 percent get busy
more than 4 times a week.
These numbers are surprisingly low. It turns out that
all that sex talk and obsession have not impacted the
reality. What happens and why people enjoy intimacy
so rarely?
Well, in many cases men feel like women do not care.
Ladies may be breastfeeding, having postpartum
depression. They get pregnant and carry babies. Or
they get overloaded with the housework, kids,
careers, etc.
Women feel that men become less responsive to them
in bed. Couples get used to each other and being so
busy with things they rarely find time to sit down and
just talk. When there is no closeness of spirit and
heart, sex is doomed to die out.
At this, most people think it’s great to have sex at
least several times a week or at least once a week.
And the good news is that you can do things to
change that. Make your marriage a priority. Invest your
time and energy into your relationship and your
passion can rekindle.

137 including 3 women put to death sentence in ghana

137 prisoners including 3 women under
death row in Ghana
Director of Amnesty International Ghana, Lawrence
Amesu, has revealed that close to 137 prisoners
including three women are currently under death
row awaiting execution.
Speaking during the launch of Advocacy Toolkit for
Abolition of Death Penalty in West
Africa, Lawrence Amesu says his outfit was pressing
hard to push for the abolition of the death penalty in
Ghana.
In 2015, President Mahama commuted 14 death
sentences to life imprisonment.

President Mahama with Ghana’s most wanted criminal,
Atta Ayi