12 things you should never be ashamed of during making love

12 things you should never be ashamed of
during making love

Many things can happen during sex. You may get an
orgasm, fall in love and even create the new life!
But there are also other, less pleasant things, that
often happen during sexual intercourse. And they
can happen not only with your partner but also
with you.
You might have probably seen in some common
melodrama or erotic movie that when people make
love, everything is very romantic, beautiful, exciting,
no put on socks or forgotten cups on the bed. In other
words, everything is IDEAL. But those who had sexual
experience know that all this is a nonsense, and
actually it doesn't work that way.
Good news is that the majority of things we worry
about during sex are quite normal "side effects." We
must understand that if we pay attention to these
small issues that usually worry us more than our
partners, we will destroy the magic of the moment for
which we love sex so much. That's why clever people
learn either not to notice such moments or to laugh at
them. Because if we learn this, we will become free
and will trust our partner more who learned this with
us.
So, which weird things can make you feel shy, and
should you actually pay attention to them?
1. Weird sounds
Yes, weird sounds can come out from anywhere: from
your mouth or from other places of your body. All in
all, sex is the physical process. That's why there is
nothing weird if you completely give yourself to the
process and allow yourself some breadths. But many
people are ashamed if something like this happens to
them, and destroy the romance that they would like to
feel so much. You shouldn't forget that not only you
but also your partner can emit such sounds. And if
this happens even with him, why should YOU be
ashamed of this?
2. The amount of time you need to reach an orgasm
If you imitate orgasms one by one because you can't
reach normally even once, then you should better stop
doing this. Because your complexes and useless
thoughts make you need much more time from
reaching a climax than when you don't think about
anything at all.
3. Discussing what you would like to try in bed
It is 2016 outside, and the human rules his or her life
and everything that happens around. However, still
many are afraid of asking for something that we want
to try in bed. And, frankly speaking, it is hard to
understand - why?! The quality of sex depends on this!
And there is nothing shameful in the wish to get
pleasure during the sexual intercourse.
4. Problems with excitement
Some men may have problems with erection. And this
is not something they should be ashamed of and
become dispirited. Very often our body and mind may
be not in agreement with each other. And in some
cases we «want» with our head while our body can
refuse at the same moment. In this case, the prelude
can help you. All in all, you may refer to a doctor if
this happens too often. You in no way should be
ashamed of this or become upset.
5. Impossibility to reach an orgasm
Very often, men or women (especially women) face
problems in reaching an orgasm. And before trying to
imitate it, try to start thinking about the goal of sex
and possibility to become closer to your partner or
simply spending time with pleasure without
concentrating on how important this process is for the
Universe. Such method yields its fruits: it will be
much easier for you to relax during the sexual
intercourse. And don't forget that there is nothing bad
if you don't get on the peak of the sexual pleasure,
because this is actually an ascension, not an
immediate teleportation.
6. Wind
When your legs are raised up and spread wide for the
maximum penetration, it is quite normal that you
may have wind. But if you think too much about this
problem, you can't completely concentrate on the
process. But there is nothing more important than it,
is it? It is important to keep in mind that it is easier
to laugh at everything that happens with us and turn
it into a joke rather than worrying and being
embarrassed because of this.
7. When you need a small break
Sex is always a training. A wonderful, bringing
pleasure, but still a training. And this means that at
some moment you may get tired and even exhale. You
will need recover breath, relax and maybe even
refresh yourself. There is nothing you should be
ashamed of in this. Actually, if you got tired even
more than your partner did, then you tried harder,
and this is worthy of respect.
8. Know how to say "no"
There are thousands of things that may happen during
sex, and you may simply not like some of them. But
you can refuse from them at any minute! This will not
turn you into a hypocrite, and you shouldn't worry
that your partner will consider you to be a boring
person. Maybe you are simply not ready for this, and
probably may not ever be ready. If your partner can't
accept this fact, maybe your should think if he is
worth staying by your side.
9. Body hair
If there is hair on my body, and this is not eyelashes,
eyebrows or it is not on my head - it must be
immediately destroyed with no compromises! – This is
the opinion the majority of women stick to trying to
be something like an ideal on the poster when they
will have to bare themselves before making love.
Actually, more often this issue doesn't play any role
for your sexual partner.
10. How you have an orgasm
Many women and men confess that when they reach
an orgasm, their neighbours can hear this, and even
people in the passing by cars can. Talking about the
sounds, rather than about their level, many are
ashamed of their emotions. But don't forget that for
many people, especially for men, sounds of orgasm of
their sexual partner are already the perfect music, and
the more emotional it is - the better.
11. Fantasies about someone
If during sex you think about someone else but your
partner, probably you should consider the possibility
of changing this person. However, there is nothing
bad in closing your eyes and imagining a sex-symbol
or even someone you know who excites you in some
degree. This doesn't mean that you don't love your
partner. This means only that you are a completely
normal person who would like to have sex with
someone who seems sexual for you.
12. Peculiarities of your body
Each of us has something he or she would like to
change in own body and appearance: to lose weight or,
vice versa, to gain it, to change the form of the nose
or chin, make legs longer and hips - smaller. But there
is one detail: a person you have sex with has the same
concerns about appearance as you do. And at the same
time you may even not know what he worries about
so strongly. That's why you need to perceive your
body as given and stop being ashamed of it.